I previously owned a Ford F-150. My oil pressure light came on in my vehicle during one of my business excursions. I was certain that this warning light wasn’t good news. After my meeting, I got back into the truck, and the light was off but the check engine light remained on.
I knew I had a problem so I planned to get the truck to our mechanic that week. The next day, the check engine light was still on as I was on my way to pick up the kids from school.
I remember walking out the school doors and thinking, “I’m going to call the mechanic when I get home.” We piled into the truck and headed back to our house. But the oil pressure light came on again as we approached our home. The tachometer arrow fluttered about and, when I pushed down on the accelerator, nothing happened. Then the truck was dead.
After getting towed and a few days later learning the engine had seized, there were some obvious signs of weird “knocking” that started two days prior. Not being that experienced with vehicles, I knew the sound wasn’t right but didn’t know an immediate response was necessary. I’d still be driving my F-150 if I’d acted sooner.
A Coach Is A Check Engine Light To Your Life & Business
When you work with a coach, they can serve as a check engine light to your mindsets, habits, and business. They will see things from angles that you can’t. Coaches ask questions about these warnings to get you to think about the seriousness of the check engine light.
For a season, they sit shotgun and pick up on things you may not see since you are too busy, overwhelmed, or ignoring the flashing lights.
The most important thing my clients want from me isn’t more money, more clients, or better time management. No, they want accountability. Accountability is the focus of our coaching relationship.
As we’re setting up their client dashboard, we’re also establishing the check engine lights’ triggers. It’s amazing to watch these customers respond to the lights and then respond in real-time. They are able to change things on the fly without risking a dead vehicle on the side of the road.
The 3 Ways I Keep My Clients Accountable
These check engine lights primarily fall into 3 categories for my clients.
1) Your mindsets and habits. Strong or weak. Good or bad. I assist my clients in developing, maintaining, and shifting their mindsets and behaviors.
2) Your goals. The first step in working with my clients is to establish a list of 1-3 objectives. Throughout the coaching agreement, we track these targets using lead and lag indicators.
3) Your shortcomings. Many leaders today concentrate on attempting to accomplish everything, which leads to them spreading themselves too thin and focusing on their own shortcomings far too much.
How a Coach Helps With Mindsets and Habits
Coaches provide accountability to your habits and mindsets. The words we say are incredibly powerful impacting our bodies and minds. There’s a field of psychology called neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) that studies this phenomenon.
NLP is the idea that the programming language of our brain is the words we use. When I work with my clients, I’m listening to word patterns, tones, repetitiveness, etc. Listening at this level keeps my clients alert and aware of what they say and how.
Clients will frequently say things like, “I’m just terrible at this,” or, “I have no idea what I’m doing.” This is because it’s unconscious. Their remarks include words such as “always” or “never.” People who are stuck in a limiting mindset may also believe that their accomplishments aren’t good enough. Sometimes, clients get stuck with a mindset that minimizes their achievements.
As a coach, my duty is to ask penetrating questions about these habits and mindsets in order to provide fresh viewpoints. Clients may use these new perspectives to change the direction they are headed. Many of these clients, however, would be unable on their own to reach their goals because they wouldn’t see or would avoid doing something about the orange check engine light.
Coaching Helps You Track And Achieve Your Goals
We all know goals are important. We wouldn’t have the Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, and Oprah Winfrey’s of the world without goals. But somehow people still fail to achieve their goals.
Setting a goal may be as simple as saying, “I’d like to lose weight,” but following through and accomplishing the objective is something that most people find difficult. There are a lot of reasons for it, but there’s a straightforward solution. Accountability. My clients hire me to be a guide to achieving their goals.
How do we do this? I help my clients determine what to track, how to adjust, and the actions to take. When you do this daily, you WILL accomplish your goals. Just read my article about the 95% goal accomplishment plan.
Coaching Keeps You Sane About Your Shortcomings
During an onboarding session with a customer, I noticed there was a lot of emphasis on her wish to address shortcomings. We spoke about these flaws for a few minutes, as well as the difference between growth and fixed mindsets. We also discussed abundance and scarcity mindsets. This initial conversation reveals her tendency to focus on limitations rather than strengths.
Yes, we must examine and manage our shortcomings, but focusing on them in an attempt to create balance is a waste of time. Working on your strengths has been demonstrated to provide a far better return on investment than working on your weaknesses.
As a coach, my duty is to assist my clients in maintaining a mental calm about their limitations. I want to motivate and encourage my clients to focus on their strengths. We collaborate on and delegate the shortcomings.
Coaching is a powerful tool for individuals who wish to enhance and expand their mindsets, habits, and goals. A coach can assist you in keeping track of your progress using lead and lag measures as well as providing accountability so that you may achieve your goals. Let’s chat if you’re feeling overwhelmed or want additional assistance in achieving your goals. I’d love to learn more about what you want to achieve.
A metaphor for coaching that I find clarifying can be found in the world of stories and movies. Many people know the role of the hero and villain but they forget all great stories have a guide.
“Use your strengths to defeat the enemy.” This is the essence of Morpheus’ lesson to Neo. Obi-Wan tells Luke this in Star Wars. Simba is aided by Timon and Pumba in The Lion King. Frodo is guided by Gandalf in The Lord of the Rings. These are all sage mentors to the heroes of these stories.
I’d like to learn more about your story and potentially be your SAGE Guide. You can connect with me by scheduling an introduction call today.