Building Your Confidence Through Reflection and Contribution

| Jul 6, 2021

A tired black and red bird landed on a branch. The bird rested, enjoying the view from the branch and the protection it offered from dangerous animals and a view of the ground for potential food. Just as the bird grew used to the branch and the support and safety it offered, a strong wind started blowing, and the tree swayed with such intensity that it seemed the branch would snap in half.

But the bird was not worried for it knew two important truths. The first truth – even without the branch it was able to fly, and thus remain safe through the power of its own two wings. The second truth – it also knew that there are many other branches upon which it can temporarily rest.

Who is the most confident person you know? What makes them so confident?

I’m reading the book “The 4 Agreements” right now and the first agreement is to be “Impeccable with your word”. I believe this directly ties to confidence as does the idea of staying accountable.

Practically speaking, confidence is tied to our perspective on ourselves, what we’ve accomplished, and what others say about us. (Plus what we say to ourselves, more on this later.)

Take a moment with me and think about this question:

How confident are YOU?

I realize this can be nuanced into various areas of life such as business, health, leading, finances, the future, etc. so pick one of these areas and think about your confidence in this area.

  • What do other people have to say about you in this area?
  • What are you saying to yourself about this area?

Most of the time the trouble isn’t in what people say about us but how we speak to ourselves. It’s a broken mindset about what we can do, be, or have that we can get into trouble.

I personally struggled with this big time when I first started my business. Then one day I realized I have twenty-eight 5-star reviews on Google but in comparison to the way I spoke to myself, you would never know I did. So like the black and red bird on the branch, when you face the wind of your own negative opinion or others, don’t let that shake your confidence. Remember you can still fly and there’s plenty of other areas where you are and can be successful.

Contribute To Others

1. Always be willing to help your co-workers or employees when they need it.

2. Don’t gossip about things that you don’t know about. Instead, have a conversation with them if you really want to say something about it.

3. Ask people questions first. Be kind and take the time to understand the needs of others before offering advice or making suggestions so that they know you care and that you’re not just looking for what’s best for yourself.

4. Treat all people equally, regardless of their status in the company or their relationship with you, this will go a long way towards promoting goodwill in your workplace.

5. Be mindful of your own behavior, as well as the behavior of your co-workers, and step in if someone is being treated poorly by another employee or manager.

As business owners or leaders, we must exemplify this in our behaviors and mindset. The beautiful side benefit of remembering what we are capable of and contributing to others is our confidence will grow.

The beauty of confidence is that it can be grown and these two strategies will help your confidence grow. Confidence also seems to be seasonal and situational. You may be in a season or situation now that requires a different perspective and new confidence. If you are, I’d like to learn more and see if I can be of support on a Discovery Call.

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